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Derwin
06-19-2008, 08:05 PM
Well, I just got back from shooting 18 holes of golf today. Nothing unusual, though. I play golf at least 3 or 4 times a week. But today I learned a valuable lesson that not only applies to my golf game, but to life in general.

We were playing at a club where we are members. We had a simple bet for a fun $15 to whoever shot the lowest score. I was playing exceptionally well (for me!), and I was really beating my brother mercilessly. We only had 3 holes to go. We come up to the 16th hole....143 yard par 3. I figure....no problem. I get out my trusty 7 iron and attempt to hit the shot. I hit what seemed to be a fantastic shot right at the green/pin. but then it dropped suddenly about 5 yards in front of the green.

This green has a creek running right in front of it. So you have to hit OVER the creek in order to get your ball on the green. Usually this is no problem, but today I found out it was a BIG problem for me. I went up to my ball, which was just a couple yards from the creek, and I plunk it right into the water! Then I dropped another ball, and done the same. Then I did it A THIRD TIME!

Well, I was sooooo frustrated, that I GAVE UP on the hole. I told my brother that HE WON, and I'm not even going to finish the hole out because I was so upset.

We then go to the 17th hole and tee-off. I hit an incredible drive right up the middle. My brother shanked his to the left. I hit my second shot right up near the green, and then put in for par. My brother got a double bogey.

We go to the 18th hole and tee-off. I hit another great drive, except this time a bit to the right. I hit my second shot on the green.....get par. My brother ended up getting a 9 on the hole!

I was ahead of him the entire round, and then actually would have won! But because I GAVE UP on the 16th hole, I forfeited the match. I gave up because in my mind I thought I was finished, and that there was NO WAY that I could ever "come back" and win. I thought I had messed up way too much on that single hole, and could never rebound after that. I truly gave up.

Isn't this what some people do in life? We look at the hurdles that are in front of us, and think to ourselves....there's just no way I am going to be able to overcome that. We may even make mistakes in our lives.....wrong decisions that hurt us in the short term.....and then we resign ourselves to mediocrity. Leaving our dreams lay stagnant because we simply lose belief in ourselves that we can actually accomplish them.

My little golf game today taught me to NEVER GIVE UP in golf again. But it has revived an old belief that I have always had......NEVER GIVE UP IN LIFE, EITHER. No matter how hard it seems, or how impossible the task......KEEP YOUR DREAM ALIVE. Go for it. After all, what's the worst that could possibly happen? You fail. Well.....news bulletin to everybody...and myself.....We all fail at something/sometime in our lives.

Here is a favorite quote of mine from Teddy Roosevelt:




Far better it is to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that knows neither victory nor defeat.

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I can assure you that I will NEVER give up no matter how bleak the outcome may look. I will continue to press on no matter how the current circumstances around me may appear.

This is not only a lesson in Golf.....But in life itself.

Derwin

P.S. Sorry for my little ramble, but this is the "cigar lounge" and I had to get this off my chest! All sermons will be available in the atrium for a small contribution! Thanks for listening.

CelticFlyer
06-19-2008, 09:44 PM
Great story, Derwin. It can also be summarized by "A quitter never wins and a winner never quits!" ;)

I've got a different outlook on life too. I just had an emergency appendectomy. What fun that was! Reminds you how lucky we are to live in a country with advanced medical science. The fact that I've got health care insurance sure helps!

Sometimes, all you need to do is stop and smell the roses.

Baja_Traveler
06-19-2008, 11:50 PM
3-4 times a week??!! Wow - you must have a killer handicap. I'm lucky if I get to play 3-4 times in a month...

I kinda learned the same lesson this week. I was at the US Open at Torrey Pines this week - yep took some vacation days. During the playoff, Tiger was three strokes ahead going into the hole I was sitting on. Rocco evened it up just a few holes later, and kept it tied all the way to sudden death. He looked done-for going by me, but didn't give up and will go down in history for one of the most exciting playoffs on PGA history. How many of us would have just given up knowing your three shots down to the best golfer in the world?

Derwin
06-20-2008, 10:03 AM
You were actually at Torry Pines? Wow! Fantastic. I bet you had a great time. I think Rocco and Tiger were BOTH incredibly inspirational in their own way. For Rocco to put up such a fight against Tiger was indeed something for the history books. But for Tiger to continue playing in the condition he was in....this was awesome. This man certainly does not need the money. He's pretty much in it for the records right now, and just for the sport itself. Now we come to find out that it wasn't the knee operation that was giving him problems, but the fact that he had a fracture which was caused when he was practicing for this event. But he stayed in it anyway. HE DID NOT GIVE UP.....even under so much intense pain. He stayed in there. Very, very inspirational.....and another life-lesson. I just wish I would have taken this lesson yesterday when I was golfing! I folded like a house of cards after getting frustrated on one hole. Never again!

About my handicap.....No. I do not have a "killer" handicap. I just love playing golf. I usually shoot in the mid 90's when I'm doing well. But hover around the 3-digit mark otherwise. I just purchased a nice Tiger Woods 60 degree iron which has helped me with my sand shots and around the green.

I also just purchased (last year) a nice Nike Slingshot 23 degree hybrid. This club is simply incredible! It helps me when I am around 150 to 170 yards from the green. I don't even bother with my irons anymore if I'm in the range of this hybrid. I'm looking for a good deal on a 16 degree Nike hybrid now for the longer shots. I don't even have a 5-wood or 3-wood in my bag anymore!

For all the golf I play, you would think my game would be a lot better. But no....I'm a 100 shot player on average. I've been thinking about taking some lessons to tweak my game a little, but never seem to get around to doing it.

Derwin

Baja_Traveler
06-20-2008, 05:17 PM
I took half a year of lessons to get me started on the right path. Do the same, and you will be amazed - after a month or so I'll bet you will be shooting in the 80's routinely. I'm also hovering around the high 90's, but never practice and don't play enough. If I played golf as much as I shoot archery, I'd be pretty good by now...

60 degree Lob wedge is one of my favorite clubs close to a tight pin. I can hit it only 50 yards max though. Hybrids are way cool - I'm slowly replacing all my long irons with them.

Here (http://www.pbase.com/baja_traveler/2008_us_open_torrey_pines) is a link to some U.S. Open pictures I took on Tuesday

Derwin
06-20-2008, 06:55 PM
Wow! Those are some incredible photographs. Are you a professional photographer? You had to be using a telephoto lens on some of those shots. You could make a living taking and selling pictures like that. Very impressive!

Derwin

Baja_Traveler
06-20-2008, 11:30 PM
Lets just say it's a Serious Hobby. I have done some commercial work though, but it is not a living - too competitive. I was using a pro Nikon D2h with an 80-400mm lens. That allowed me to back way off and use the high speed shutter of this camera through the swing and not bother the golfer (8 frames a second).

I do have to apologize for some soft (blurry) shots in the mix there - the wife forbid me from deleting any of them - she is totally addicted to golf. I did hit delete on the sly when she wasn't looking on some of the real bad ones though ;)

Derwin
06-21-2008, 01:35 PM
I've got a different outlook on life too. I just had an emergency appendectomy. What fun that was! Reminds you how lucky we are to live in a country with advanced medical science. The fact that I've got health care insurance sure helps!

Celtic...

You had an appendectomy? Wow. I'm glad to see that everything came out good, and that you are back "in the game". Life does throw us some curve balls at times, doesn't it? The lesson I've always learned when I have setbacks is to just force my way through the circumstances, and then try and rise above them. It's sure not "easy", though!

Anyway, good to see you doing well. And I agree.....having health insurance makes the situation a lot less stressful!

Derwin

CelticFlyer
06-21-2008, 04:35 PM
Yep. I had the worst stomach ache of my life on Monday night. I went to the hospital early that morning and after a battery of tests, they determined that I had appendicitis. They scheduled me for an emergency laparoscopic appendectomy, where they make three incisions and use a camera and medical devices to isolate and remove the appendix.

I'm healing up pretty quickly, but it was kind of a scare, as I've never had to endure something like this before. I should be able to return to work Monday. Woo-hoo!

RAN
06-21-2008, 08:19 PM
Wow, Celtic, glad to hear you're alright. Last year, I found out I had a massive chest infection, apparently brought on from pneumonia I didn't even know I had, or when I had it. I had to undergo surgery to have it cleaned out, and have since learned that people have died from it (if I'd been many days later getting to the hospital, I'd've been one of them).

I was still in the hospital a week after my surgery.... I'm jealous!! :-Þ

Take care!
Rick

CelticFlyer
06-21-2008, 10:27 PM
Thanks, guys. Yeah, this episode was a little spooky. It blind sighted me as I'm in relatively good health and never had any digestive issues.

The weird thing is that a coworker of mine was recently out for three weeks with the very same ailment! His appendix ruptured during surgery, however, and an infection set in shortly thereafter. He's doing fine now, but he really had a scary experience. I got off relatively easy. Now I just have to be cognitive of sudden movements, and my recovery is focused on pain management. One more Vicatin, please...;)

As Derwin implied, some things can truly change your perspective!

rogwild
06-21-2008, 11:44 PM
CF, take it easy, and a speedy recovery. =y: If you get any 'weird images' while on your 'meds' be sure to try to capture them in your ART.:confused::Beer:

CelticFlyer
06-22-2008, 12:37 AM
You bet! =D

Moorpark1
06-22-2008, 01:31 AM
Celtic
Ditto to your speedy recovery and your return to producing all those great graphic works of art! Maybe you can help Dewin in his quest for the Supreme Logo?

CelticFlyer
06-22-2008, 01:49 AM
All I can do is what you guys have: offer my opinion. I've liked nearly everything I've seen thus far. I can see why Derwin has a hard time narrowing down the field! And thanks for the good wishes. I'm eager to get some new material in your hands. Soon!

cpaddock
06-22-2008, 12:41 PM
Howzit Celtic! Wishing you a speedy recovery! Sure makes you appreciate the miracle
of modern technology! As for the "life lessons" thread....my favorite is: You gotta have a dream, 'cause if you don't have a dream, how you gonna have a dream come true?
(Rogers and Hammerstein, South Pacific)
Curves Ahead!

Derwin
06-22-2008, 12:49 PM
Hey, cpaddock, how are things going in the Hawaiin paradise? Hope all is well with you and yours.

I love that quote about having a dream. It's kind of like the quote...".....if you don't have a destination, how will you know if/when you ever get there?"

I am a BIG believer in going for your dreams.....and not just being a "dreamer". I've had many failures in my life, but it just takes a few successes to make it all worth-while. They said that Babe Ruth was the strike out king......but he was also the Home-run king!

If you don't have any failures, than you must not be doing anything! =D

I'm gonna keep "swinging" at the ball, even though I strike out 7 out of 10 times. A .300 average is pretty dang good! Well, my average may be .240........ but still not bad! ;)

Derwin

cpaddock
06-22-2008, 02:54 PM
Howzit Derwin! How can I complain when every morning I wake up beside my loving wife
and find myself still living on Maui?!!! Here's another quote for your consideration....
"It's not the Goal, it's the Journey." Something about appreciating and living life to the
fullest, in the moment. The "plan" is the hand on the tiller. Responding to what the wind and the waves throw at you is good seamanship.
Aloooooooha!

Shhted
06-26-2008, 09:57 AM
Great stories, y'all. I live by the mantra "nil desperandum". Whenever I get down or feel like accepting failure I remember it. It's usually enough to muster the desire to continue.

CelticFlyer
06-26-2008, 10:52 AM
Latin and Greek phrases

Definition of: nil desperandum

nil desperandum: There is no cause for despair; never despair.

Thanks again, Google! ;)